how to use set_select on a form to show the old value?

You have values as "pending option confirmed"  Where is the "request" from?
The code is working, the error is somewhere in your data

No, html output has not changed, the default value one is still the one selected.

Yes, Because there is no such value in the POST response, it is selected by default.

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